Keep Karmalized

With so much going on in the world today I often wonder about the future we are all rapidly approaching. Will it get better or worse?   Working as a Nurse and caring for my share of trauma patients do not help the cause nor my thoughts either! Night in and out I see how ONE bad decision can impact your whole life… How some great people can be dealt such bad cards leaving them in such a bad state and drowning in a world of questions.
Life has so many uncontrolled variables that are totally beyond our own understanding.

Monday night at work as I administered meds to a patient, I watched the verdict of the situation in Ferguson unfold. I will not get into a debate of who and what was right but I will tell you THAT is a situation that has changed lives. Whether the distrust of law and those enforcing it is your change or the hate you feel for ignorance; some how that situation made a change. It is horrible to see guns being used so freely and life being thought of as invaluable but then see a patient fighting so hard for a life they didnt have a chance to live in a hospital bed. If you think that is a 100% reference to the Ferguson case, think again!!. This goes way deeper than that. How selfish are we to place such little value on the ONE life we were all given a chance to live? Why add more chaos to an already uncontrollable state of living? My wish is that all the unnecessary violence will cease but we all know that is a long road less seem to travel. Although I wish I had presidential powers minus the presidential problems, my reality is I am a small country bred Nurse that have her own problems to battle with daily. I don’t rally up speeches and take lead in protest. I do not try to be the  present day Dr. King either. I, however, applaud those who have the courage,strength no-how to do those things. My change is smaller than that… my change starts with changing the way I think of others and spreading the lost word: kindness  in the atmosphere. Small starts can fuel big changes!  In such a mess that we continue to observe each day, I continue to challenge each of you to do something kind to someone else. While it may not win you the Noble Peace Prize today,YOU ARE taking steps to change a person’s aspect of their day or even a hopeless decision. Think about it! Be apart of the movement! Inspire others! It is simple, inexpensive and rewarding! #dontshoot

#keepkarmalized

Its Back

I have struggled the last couple of weeks with being inspired enough to blog. I am not sure HOW many times I opened my application to write but ended up staring with a blank mind on a blank screen… Sounds crazy or maybe cliche to some but I am the type of person that goes with how i feel. I want my words to not be empty content but content from my heart. I want to be inspired to write how i feel and hopefully inspire others. This means alot to me! I apologize for my lack of communication but i do have a couple ideas i want to share in the near future so STAY TUNED!! Thanks to those that questioned my absence, I am back!!

The holidays are coming so if anyone has ideas of projects, please feel free to send them to me!!

Good company I keep … Let’s Flock!

“Birds of a feather, flocks together”… Who made this up?! I have no idea however I agree with this statement fully! Recently I’ve had conversations about the successes of my circle of friends from careers to marriages. I boasted about how proud I am of each and every one of them. As they continue growing in their careers and goals, I find myself doing the same. We all feed off each other so much that when one gets a promotion, it’s only a matter of time until I hear more good news from others. We push each other, we celebrate each other and we feed off each other. I can honestly say that although we may have disagreements (We aren’t perfect), God has surrounded me with a group of friends that do not accept mediocre as normal. We rather strive on than fail. We are independent, we are career oriented, we are all about happiness, we want strong families and we all want the best for each other. That is uncommon when it comes to a bunch of females (so I have heard…) however, this is the circle I have been fortunate to have. This is the company I decide to keep! We pray together and band together to help each other get to the next step. We don’t believe in the concept of “crabs in a barrel” We all much rather just flock” together! I am so blessed to have these individuals!

My advice to anyone is to surround yourself with positive-like minded people that want the same things you want. Whether it be a good marriage, a great career or positive lifestyle changes, you are the company you decide to keep! Think about the closest “5” people to you and their goals in life. Now think about your goals ?! Do you encourage each other? Are your goals the same? What benefit are you to the people in your life? When looking at your future, think of these questions and ask yourself. You want to be surrounded with positive vibes…remember misery loves company. Just because one person decides to stop, does not mean you have to remain complacent. Go for it!! What type of company do you keep??

Happy Monday!!

Affirmation Challenge

Happy Hump day!! I can not believe it is already August, where has the time gone?!

Recently I have heard and seen ALOT of videos challenging people to do various activities. Some are positive such as the gospel singing challenge and the love challenge however there are some that are beyond negative. One in particular includes the horrid “fire challenge”. If you are not familiar with the new rave of this generation, I suggest you do some googling. Even in explaining the process I get angry so for that reason I ask that you understand and simply do some small research on the topic.

Every time I see one of these harmful challenges posted, I instantly turn away and completely shut down. As a woman in healthcare and a person that hates to see people hurt, the challenges are not funny to me and actually makes me sick to my stomach. I can not stand to watch… Literally! As a auntie, I worry and pray that my nieces and nephews never find these videos entertaining and tries to mimic any of them. Seriously, How can we as people sit back and laugh at these challenges by excusing it as simple entertainment ?! Where did humanity take a turn for the worse?? When did setting yourself on fire become cool?! Apparently I missed something and didn’t even realize it!!

With all the insanely-negative challenges that are going on, I decided to make up my own 48- hour challenge. From now until Friday at 0600, I challenge YOU that have taken the time to read my post as well as myself to post or comment affirmations you hear, see or tell yourself to a social network. It can be multiple affirmations or just one. Whether small or large, I would appreciate any support. I figure if people can get “iced down” and “burned up”, it has to be some space and energy for positive affirmations too, right?! Let’s do it!! I’m calling YOU out!

Don’t forget to tag #kindlykarmalized and #affirmationchallenge to your post!

Have a great hump day and please support!!

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let GO and let LIVE

Letting go can be one of the hardest things to do whether it is a damaged friendship, lost relationship or brutal past. It is something about no longer dealing with a situation, that has came apart of your being for so long, that is so hard to let go. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try to hold on tight to something, GOD has another plan for you and that situation. The art of “letting go” is nothing that can be simplified. It is such a weird thing when you know deep down in your soul that something is not for you but through hopes, dreams and suffering, you decide to hold on anyway. You decide that forgiveness is too big.

How many of you have tried to run from a past that continues to haunt you regardless of what happens. Is it because you have not let it go and fully accepted the fact that who you are and what you are has been molded by that past? Have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, the past is not meant to be forgotten but to be embraced and valued…
OR how many of us have stayed in a relationship for way too long knowing that from day one , we were doomed to have heartbreaks and pain. The suffering could have been totally unintentional on the other person’s behalf however, your paths, goals and dreams were on two different wavelengths from the start. However, We want what we want.

The art of letting go takes energy, forgiveness, strength and wisdom. You have to have the emotional energy to deal with and forgive something or someone that have wronged you. You need the wisdom to know when it is time to let go and the strength to stop holding on let go and move forward. Easier said than done, but not impossible! Trying to figure out what is holding you captive to the situation is the first step. Step two is making the decision if the situation or person is worth the struggle that may come and if there is a benefit in the end. {How does this benefit you? Will it make you happier? Will you gain or lose more? Does it alter your values? How will this affect your future? Will your life feel lighter or heavier? How bad is it need?}. The third step is the hardest… stepping out on faith and knowing you are doing the right thing for yourself and being confident in your decision. Looking back is expected but looking back does not mean going back. Memories are necessary, it paints a beautiful picture! Remember what molded you into YOU and turn it into a positive. Every thing that did not last or was not the most pleasant does not mean it did not yield a positive! Whether it includes an abusive relationship, failed love, betrayal by a friend or a mistake. Think about it… your positive could be a new found love that makes you appreciate the good in a person from your past. Or the ability to recognize signs of abuse before it happens or gets worse. It could be the gaining of a new loyal friend while losing a deceiving one. A bad situation can grow you into a teacher to lead others away from the same reckless path you visited. A abusive relationship could yield a beautiful child waiting to be taught about kindness and ready for protection. A bad situation is not always a failed one! Letting go is not always BAD!

With that being said: Learn to let GO and let LIVE!

Have a great week!!

Love is…

1 Corinthians 13:4-8New International Version (NIV)


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

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Good early morning! It’s 5:50am and I woke up with one of my favorite bible verses on my mind. When I forget exactly what LOVE really means, I always refer back to the good book for this verse. I just wanted to share this random thought with you! Never Forget!

You never know who is WATCHing …

After a busy and long couple of weeks of working, traveling and trying to get my life in some order, I have ample time to reach out to my followers! Well Hello World!! Oh how I have missed taking time to post and blog!

Recently I was given a compliment without even noticing anyone was watching. I usually get to work about 10-15 min early to ensure I have time to take the stairs down to the ground floor from the parking deck, walk through the main emergency room and catch the slow elevators up to my floor to clock in at 640pm. Before I take the stairs in the parking deck, I push the elevator button down for those that opt out of using the stairs as I do. The elevators from the parking deck are probably the slowest I have ever seen so I figure by pushing the button for others, I am essentially saving them time and energy. Time from waiting and energy used to run down the narrow stairwell. I have done this every single time I work especially if I see another person trailing far behind me.

Well- this week as I was dragging into work, tired as ever, a woman briefly stopped me and thanked me for always pushing the button before I run down the four flights of stairs. I was shocked and pleasantly surprised that anyone even noticed! Apparently, we both get to work around the same time and she noticed I pushed the button for the elevator a couple times. Seeing that almost every time she observes me ahead of her and having the elevators open right when she gets to them, she wanted to say “Thank you” for making her commute a little easier. She quickly explained how she is recovering from a minor ankle problem and unable to take the stairs each time she works. I could tell by her limp that taking the elevators were probably a better option for her and how I actually helped a person without even really trying! It was a simple thank you that put a smile on my face that evening!

This really goes to show that there is someone always looking/observing whether you notice it or not. By simply holding a door for a person or in my case, pushing a elevator button, you are giving another person a simple victory. Of course I have my days where I think to myself if anyone even cares for the small things I do however, this is a great reminder that although so minor, YOU can make a difference in a person’s day! Always TRY to be your best and put out positive actions/energy because you never know when you are silently being “Thanked”…

Enjoy the rest of your week loves!

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Monday words

Happy Monday loves!!

As a writer at heart, I have my days where thoughts and words just flow without meaning or purpose. Unfortunately for you, today is that day!! Enjoy, hope this helps someone!

Failure is never an option. Keep it as an opinion not a status. Love hard but Love smart! Time is something we can not get back, use it wisely!
We can not change yesterday but we can make tomorrow better starting today!
Karma can be our friend or worst enemy… Choose her relationship wisely. Give what you want to receive! Embrace those happy days because we can have plenty of bad ones. Smile through it, troubles don’t last always! Believe in what you bring to the table. Follow your dreams and your heart. Never give up on something you want! Do not be afraid to let go. Do not be afraid to stay and fight. Do not be afraid to just move on.
If one door closes, believe a greater one is about to open. If a person walks out, believe they were not meant to be present for what’s to come. If a situation does not work out, believe it was a temporary learning experience that you have mastered, now time to move on. Everything happens for a reason. Learn!
Look at just how big but small the world is, you are not an exception, LIVE your purpose!
The impossible can be possible! Give thanks for your support system, many do not have that luxury. Never forget your past for it molded you into who you are.
Do not waste energy on games, we have other things in life to promote that energy to.
Be positive! There’s absolutely no joy in negativity. Meditate daily. Clear your mind, just like a machine, we all need to reboot at times.
Begin your day giving thanks to yourself. We are our worst critics. You deserve a compliment from time to time so give it!

Have a happy Monday!!! Keep Karmalized!!

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Care Package for my sick

Life. One thing we have absolutely no control over but have the ability to control what we do in it. Life is the journey into the unknown. Where one minute you have things figured out. You have plans, you are content and you are settled into a routine. With a blink of an eye, all of what was yesterday can change today. How crazy is that truth?

Well… recently a family member of mine have been going through a lot health-wise. From heart issues to stomach problems and now the threat of cancer. It has been an up-down ride on life’s roller coaster for this person and family. Every day I pray for the people in my life as well as myself. I pray for happiness, love, protection and now healing. I am believer of holistic care. Taking care of the mind and spirit can in return play apart on your health. Just as stress can have you physically feeling bad, your mind and spirit can do the same. I never want anyone especially those close to me to “give up” on life or become negative through their health circumstance. Although my family member has such a positive outlook and strong faith, I wanted to make sure I kept that momentum going. So I decided to put together something that would pick their spirits up and show them they are in my thoughts, heart and incredibly loved.

To act on this idea, I decided to put together a care package for them! Although I can not be there 24/7 due to distance, I wanted to show my love and support another way.
In my care package, I put together things they would like as well as things I thought would make them happy and comfortable.

This included: a comfy neck pillow, eye shade mask, Werther’s Original candy, peppermint gum, 2 lightly scented candles, faith plaque, Kleenex, a man kit (deodorant, shaver, shaving cream, body wash, toothpaste, toothbrush), a tote bag and a card. In the card I made sure to express my feelings of how much they meant to me and how I am there for whatever is needed. As I put this package together, I could not help but get emotional. Not because I was sad but happy that I am in a place to bring happiness to someone that have always been there for me and showed me nothing but support and love. This package may have been small but it came with all my thoughts, prayers, support and love. I was so content in knowing they would be so surprised to receive a big brown box at their doorstep in less than 2 day. WIN!!

I would definitely love to put together more boxes like this but also challenge each of you to do the same if someone close to you is going through a health breakdown. Feel free to contact me for more ideas of items to include or if you would like for me to send something to someone. Email me: kindlykarmalized@gmail.com or just reply to this blog! Don’t forget to follow my Instagram @kindlykarmalized

Yours Truly!

Are you nice to yourself?

Happy Friday everyone!! I have to admit that I have been beyond busy the last two weeks. In transitioning to not only a new hospital but a new role in Nursing ( med/surg to critical care…YAYYY!! ), my schedule has been a little challenging. Nevertheless, I am so happy, eager and ready to learn all I need to know in order to be a great Nurse to my critical patients.

Ironically for the last 2.5 weeks, I have been pounded with the message of not being “too hard on yourself and loving yourself”. I am known for being too hard on myself in situations, not because I think less than highly of myself but because I strive for the best and always want to be #1. I am the first to admit, I can be competitive at times! When I don’t reach a certain goal or obtain a certain reward, I think of things I could have done better and beat myself up. The older I get, the more I see this as a flaw in myself.
So, in orientation 2 weeks ago, I had the pleasure of meeting the director of pastoral services at my new hospital that gave a great speech about being good to others as well as ourselves. He talked about how we have millions of thoughts daily and majority of them are negative thoughts against ourselves. He gave examples of how when we first wake up and look in the mirror we say to ourselves “Boy,do you look a mess”. Then it continues to “I look fat in this outfit” and “I’m running late, how could I have been so dumb to oversleep”. When you really think about all the things we say to ourselves, we can be unkind at times. Not intentionally but we are our worse critics. If someone states they have Never done any of this, I would probably be concerned.

He gave us an exercise to do where he held one participant’s arm out and started pushing down on his arm. Of course the person was strong and able to push back with ease. Then he told the person to repeat “I am weak,I am weak” 30 times in which the person did. After the negative repetition, he tried again to push his arm and crazy enough, he was unable to push back as strong as before. Such a simple exercise showed just how thoughtful I can be to others but how mean we can be to ourselves. Of course, we all have times where we praise ourselves internally and externally but for the most part on a daily basis we can constantly find things wrong with ourselves without even realizing it. YES, I am guilty of this! If perfect was possible, I would be in the running for it! He then talked about just doing simple things to others by saying “hello” when you pass a person or giving a smile to a person walking towards you. How many times have we avoided a look from a person by looking down on our cellphones in order to not speak. Lets all admit our guilt! You never know how a person could yearn for just a smile!
I internally thanked the presenter for sharing such great words and exercise and wanted to personally thank him however just as fast as he came in, he left before I could break out. I plan to look up his name in our company directory and send a anonymous “thank you” card soon!

With all that you have read, I have decided to do two things. One of these things is something I usually do but have not had the chance. I usually post positive messages in my bathroom for myself and place them on my mirror. Unfortunately, since I have moved into my place a couple months ago, I have failed to post anything. I will definitely do this, this weekend.
My FIRST challenge to you is …. POST something good and positive about yourself as we reminder. Whether on a refrigerator, in a closet, in your bathroom mirror, or somewhere secure like in a book or work bag. It could be anything from ” I am beautiful and loved by many” or “I am Awesome and beyond blessed!”. Whatever works for you, make it work!!

Second challenge , do something for yourself! Whether it is buying a new outfit, getting a manicure/pedicure combo ( my favorite), taking yourself out to dinner or something inexpensive like making a bubble bath and relaxing. As long as you schedule out a moment and do something for yourself in the next couple of days. No one can love you better than YOU!

Enjoy the challenge and I will post my own a long with another challenge I have coming soon. Remember to follow my Instagram for updates!
Instagram: @kindlykarmalized with hashtag #ItsALLaboutME

Peace!