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Yesterday as I was driving into work and one of my favorite songs came on. This was not just some song.., Oh no! THIS was a song that I felt was written just for me and the person I am. It was only right to blast it as loud as possible and sing every word like no one was listening. Hitting all the high notes just right and even adding some ad-libs. Thankfully, I was in the privacy of my own car because I can promise you I had pitch problems every where. The song I speak of is by a talented artist named Estelle entitled ‘ Conquerer’. When you get a chance, look it up and listen to the words if you have not already (web link below). It is a song of strength, confidence and determination that just rings “Aye girl, you got this” every time I hear it.I had all the hand motions, neck rolling, finger pointing animations you could possibly think of as the car next to me stared. I was ok with granting ONE audience member a pass to my noon car-performance. I got out the car feeling good. I felt I could conquer my day and whatever bumps I would experience. I felt empowered. I am not sure if the song alone brought on this attitude or if it was also the universe giving me what I sought after for the last five days. Whatever it was, I can truly say I felt filled.

That’s exactly what happens when you open yourself up mentally and spiritually to hear what your higher power (My God) has for you. It has been non-stop signs that confirm the direction I am being pushed to go. From new contacts to being surrounded with positive energy and affirmation all around. How is it when we truthfully seek and remain open to receive, IT comes from all directions? When we allow time to just STOP our minds, focus on what it is we want or need and allow the spirit to lead us, it’s amazing! I’ve always been told to be open but I could never understand just exactly what it meant. That is UNTIL I CHANGED my thinking , my state of mind, the direction I wanted my mind to go. You think positive-you get positive. You think open -you get answers. You think focus and …bam! There it goes! What we seek, is most likely in front of us. All we have to do is listen.

Honest moment- I have recently learned the art of truly being STILL! To stop trying to MAKE things happen. This is easier said than done when you’re an Alpha female with strong determination skills. You tend to tell GOD and everybody else how things are going down. I had to learn to sit down, shut up, open my mind and soul and BE IN THE MOMENT. At times we are so caught up in our own life, with our own mess that we self consciously dismiss whatever energy that is trying to reach us and lead us. We ignore what’s right in front of our face and continue along the same path we started -still confused as before! It’s not until we change our view and trust our higher power that we can see things a bit clearer than the previous day or moment. As I continue to learn and practice, I challenge you today to do the same. Open yourself up to possibilities. Don’t limit yourself! Change your view. You want happiness- think happiness. You need affirmation- think and be open for affirmation. It’s there!

Keep Karmalized ❤️

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Song: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=lvvimH5_Ap4

Return of Kindly Karmalized

THREE years and FOUR months… 3 years and 4 months… over three looong years…that is how long it has been since I wrote my last post. That was the last time I breathed life into my first baby- KINDLY KARMALIZED. That was the last time I allowed myself to freely write, to freely share my thoughts, to freely be inspired by the world !

I can remember the birth of this blog and how happy I was to finally have something I could publish and pour out my thoughts and visions. I finally had a legit platform to empty what was in my heart and heavy on my mind. I remember being so afraid of publicly publishing my first blog that I read over it three or four times just to make sure I was ready. I probably hit the refresh button every minute just to see if ONE person would care to read my words once I hit “publish”. I had no idea the influence I would have or even if I would make a difference.  I was ready to give this site, this vision, all I had. I had visions of helping the homeless, empowering women in shelters, raising money for those less fortunate, brightening up the day of a random person and just sprinkling kindness every where I walked…. and then I remember little by little, losing myself in a situation that unconsciously  started to take my inspiration, my desire, my joy,  my inner peace. Slowly my thoughts did not flow naturally. My words did not make sense to me. I stared at my computer screen feeling so uninspired. I did not want to write. I did not want to do anything remotely close to expressing how I felt. Maybe because I felt my kindness-happy blog would turn into a place of remorse and resentment. I did not want my place of peace to turn into a place of pain.  I just was not feeling “IT”. It is crazy how your attitude can change once you lose your ground and give attention to things that do not deserve it. We slowly forget things that are more important to us by replacing it with things that are irrelevant to our being.  I never thought that it would be over three years before I felt that fire in my heart to light again.

Fast forward to the present, the universe- my GOD- have allowed my opportunity to come full circle. My excitement about the new direction I am mentally taking in my life as well as the bigger vision I have for Kindly Karmalized gives me joy. I literally smile when I think of the small box I plan to step out of and the influence I want this movement to have. I am older, wiser and much more motivated to do good and to concentrate more on positive vibes and nurturing mind, body and soul. I am more confident in what I am trying to do and the journey I am taking. I want to hold my baby tight and give it more life than before. I want to grow it to its full potential and in return enjoy the journey. Maybe my trip through heartbreaks, distrust, learning to love myself again, and personal growth had to happen to bring me back to this point. I am not sure but I do know there’s something in me that is burning to lead me to my purpose. My mission is bigger than just being basic.  I pray to GOD that I am able to consistently and confidently go forth to bring my thoughts and acts forward. I pray he leads me down a positive path and allows me freedom to discover things others may not understand or do not have the capacity to tap into. I speak life into my dreams and my purpose.

This is Kindly Karmalized – revamped!

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Keep Karmalized

With so much going on in the world today I often wonder about the future we are all rapidly approaching. Will it get better or worse?   Working as a Nurse and caring for my share of trauma patients do not help the cause nor my thoughts either! Night in and out I see how ONE bad decision can impact your whole life… How some great people can be dealt such bad cards leaving them in such a bad state and drowning in a world of questions.
Life has so many uncontrolled variables that are totally beyond our own understanding.

Monday night at work as I administered meds to a patient, I watched the verdict of the situation in Ferguson unfold. I will not get into a debate of who and what was right but I will tell you THAT is a situation that has changed lives. Whether the distrust of law and those enforcing it is your change or the hate you feel for ignorance; some how that situation made a change. It is horrible to see guns being used so freely and life being thought of as invaluable but then see a patient fighting so hard for a life they didnt have a chance to live in a hospital bed. If you think that is a 100% reference to the Ferguson case, think again!!. This goes way deeper than that. How selfish are we to place such little value on the ONE life we were all given a chance to live? Why add more chaos to an already uncontrollable state of living? My wish is that all the unnecessary violence will cease but we all know that is a long road less seem to travel. Although I wish I had presidential powers minus the presidential problems, my reality is I am a small country bred Nurse that have her own problems to battle with daily. I don’t rally up speeches and take lead in protest. I do not try to be the  present day Dr. King either. I, however, applaud those who have the courage,strength no-how to do those things. My change is smaller than that… my change starts with changing the way I think of others and spreading the lost word: kindness  in the atmosphere. Small starts can fuel big changes!  In such a mess that we continue to observe each day, I continue to challenge each of you to do something kind to someone else. While it may not win you the Noble Peace Prize today,YOU ARE taking steps to change a person’s aspect of their day or even a hopeless decision. Think about it! Be apart of the movement! Inspire others! It is simple, inexpensive and rewarding! #dontshoot

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Its Back

I have struggled the last couple of weeks with being inspired enough to blog. I am not sure HOW many times I opened my application to write but ended up staring with a blank mind on a blank screen… Sounds crazy or maybe cliche to some but I am the type of person that goes with how i feel. I want my words to not be empty content but content from my heart. I want to be inspired to write how i feel and hopefully inspire others. This means alot to me! I apologize for my lack of communication but i do have a couple ideas i want to share in the near future so STAY TUNED!! Thanks to those that questioned my absence, I am back!!

The holidays are coming so if anyone has ideas of projects, please feel free to send them to me!!

Good company I keep … Let’s Flock!

“Birds of a feather, flocks together”… Who made this up?! I have no idea however I agree with this statement fully! Recently I’ve had conversations about the successes of my circle of friends from careers to marriages. I boasted about how proud I am of each and every one of them. As they continue growing in their careers and goals, I find myself doing the same. We all feed off each other so much that when one gets a promotion, it’s only a matter of time until I hear more good news from others. We push each other, we celebrate each other and we feed off each other. I can honestly say that although we may have disagreements (We aren’t perfect), God has surrounded me with a group of friends that do not accept mediocre as normal. We rather strive on than fail. We are independent, we are career oriented, we are all about happiness, we want strong families and we all want the best for each other. That is uncommon when it comes to a bunch of females (so I have heard…) however, this is the circle I have been fortunate to have. This is the company I decide to keep! We pray together and band together to help each other get to the next step. We don’t believe in the concept of “crabs in a barrel” We all much rather just flock” together! I am so blessed to have these individuals!

My advice to anyone is to surround yourself with positive-like minded people that want the same things you want. Whether it be a good marriage, a great career or positive lifestyle changes, you are the company you decide to keep! Think about the closest “5” people to you and their goals in life. Now think about your goals ?! Do you encourage each other? Are your goals the same? What benefit are you to the people in your life? When looking at your future, think of these questions and ask yourself. You want to be surrounded with positive vibes…remember misery loves company. Just because one person decides to stop, does not mean you have to remain complacent. Go for it!! What type of company do you keep??

Happy Monday!!

Affirmation Challenge

Happy Hump day!! I can not believe it is already August, where has the time gone?!

Recently I have heard and seen ALOT of videos challenging people to do various activities. Some are positive such as the gospel singing challenge and the love challenge however there are some that are beyond negative. One in particular includes the horrid “fire challenge”. If you are not familiar with the new rave of this generation, I suggest you do some googling. Even in explaining the process I get angry so for that reason I ask that you understand and simply do some small research on the topic.

Every time I see one of these harmful challenges posted, I instantly turn away and completely shut down. As a woman in healthcare and a person that hates to see people hurt, the challenges are not funny to me and actually makes me sick to my stomach. I can not stand to watch… Literally! As a auntie, I worry and pray that my nieces and nephews never find these videos entertaining and tries to mimic any of them. Seriously, How can we as people sit back and laugh at these challenges by excusing it as simple entertainment ?! Where did humanity take a turn for the worse?? When did setting yourself on fire become cool?! Apparently I missed something and didn’t even realize it!!

With all the insanely-negative challenges that are going on, I decided to make up my own 48- hour challenge. From now until Friday at 0600, I challenge YOU that have taken the time to read my post as well as myself to post or comment affirmations you hear, see or tell yourself to a social network. It can be multiple affirmations or just one. Whether small or large, I would appreciate any support. I figure if people can get “iced down” and “burned up”, it has to be some space and energy for positive affirmations too, right?! Let’s do it!! I’m calling YOU out!

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Have a great hump day and please support!!

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let GO and let LIVE

Letting go can be one of the hardest things to do whether it is a damaged friendship, lost relationship or brutal past. It is something about no longer dealing with a situation, that has came apart of your being for so long, that is so hard to let go. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try to hold on tight to something, GOD has another plan for you and that situation. The art of “letting go” is nothing that can be simplified. It is such a weird thing when you know deep down in your soul that something is not for you but through hopes, dreams and suffering, you decide to hold on anyway. You decide that forgiveness is too big.

How many of you have tried to run from a past that continues to haunt you regardless of what happens. Is it because you have not let it go and fully accepted the fact that who you are and what you are has been molded by that past? Have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, the past is not meant to be forgotten but to be embraced and valued…
OR how many of us have stayed in a relationship for way too long knowing that from day one , we were doomed to have heartbreaks and pain. The suffering could have been totally unintentional on the other person’s behalf however, your paths, goals and dreams were on two different wavelengths from the start. However, We want what we want.

The art of letting go takes energy, forgiveness, strength and wisdom. You have to have the emotional energy to deal with and forgive something or someone that have wronged you. You need the wisdom to know when it is time to let go and the strength to stop holding on let go and move forward. Easier said than done, but not impossible! Trying to figure out what is holding you captive to the situation is the first step. Step two is making the decision if the situation or person is worth the struggle that may come and if there is a benefit in the end. {How does this benefit you? Will it make you happier? Will you gain or lose more? Does it alter your values? How will this affect your future? Will your life feel lighter or heavier? How bad is it need?}. The third step is the hardest… stepping out on faith and knowing you are doing the right thing for yourself and being confident in your decision. Looking back is expected but looking back does not mean going back. Memories are necessary, it paints a beautiful picture! Remember what molded you into YOU and turn it into a positive. Every thing that did not last or was not the most pleasant does not mean it did not yield a positive! Whether it includes an abusive relationship, failed love, betrayal by a friend or a mistake. Think about it… your positive could be a new found love that makes you appreciate the good in a person from your past. Or the ability to recognize signs of abuse before it happens or gets worse. It could be the gaining of a new loyal friend while losing a deceiving one. A bad situation can grow you into a teacher to lead others away from the same reckless path you visited. A abusive relationship could yield a beautiful child waiting to be taught about kindness and ready for protection. A bad situation is not always a failed one! Letting go is not always BAD!

With that being said: Learn to let GO and let LIVE!

Have a great week!!

Love is…

1 Corinthians 13:4-8New International Version (NIV)


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

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Good early morning! It’s 5:50am and I woke up with one of my favorite bible verses on my mind. When I forget exactly what LOVE really means, I always refer back to the good book for this verse. I just wanted to share this random thought with you! Never Forget!

You never know who is WATCHing …

After a busy and long couple of weeks of working, traveling and trying to get my life in some order, I have ample time to reach out to my followers! Well Hello World!! Oh how I have missed taking time to post and blog!

Recently I was given a compliment without even noticing anyone was watching. I usually get to work about 10-15 min early to ensure I have time to take the stairs down to the ground floor from the parking deck, walk through the main emergency room and catch the slow elevators up to my floor to clock in at 640pm. Before I take the stairs in the parking deck, I push the elevator button down for those that opt out of using the stairs as I do. The elevators from the parking deck are probably the slowest I have ever seen so I figure by pushing the button for others, I am essentially saving them time and energy. Time from waiting and energy used to run down the narrow stairwell. I have done this every single time I work especially if I see another person trailing far behind me.

Well- this week as I was dragging into work, tired as ever, a woman briefly stopped me and thanked me for always pushing the button before I run down the four flights of stairs. I was shocked and pleasantly surprised that anyone even noticed! Apparently, we both get to work around the same time and she noticed I pushed the button for the elevator a couple times. Seeing that almost every time she observes me ahead of her and having the elevators open right when she gets to them, she wanted to say “Thank you” for making her commute a little easier. She quickly explained how she is recovering from a minor ankle problem and unable to take the stairs each time she works. I could tell by her limp that taking the elevators were probably a better option for her and how I actually helped a person without even really trying! It was a simple thank you that put a smile on my face that evening!

This really goes to show that there is someone always looking/observing whether you notice it or not. By simply holding a door for a person or in my case, pushing a elevator button, you are giving another person a simple victory. Of course I have my days where I think to myself if anyone even cares for the small things I do however, this is a great reminder that although so minor, YOU can make a difference in a person’s day! Always TRY to be your best and put out positive actions/energy because you never know when you are silently being “Thanked”…

Enjoy the rest of your week loves!

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Monday words

Happy Monday loves!!

As a writer at heart, I have my days where thoughts and words just flow without meaning or purpose. Unfortunately for you, today is that day!! Enjoy, hope this helps someone!

Failure is never an option. Keep it as an opinion not a status. Love hard but Love smart! Time is something we can not get back, use it wisely!
We can not change yesterday but we can make tomorrow better starting today!
Karma can be our friend or worst enemy… Choose her relationship wisely. Give what you want to receive! Embrace those happy days because we can have plenty of bad ones. Smile through it, troubles don’t last always! Believe in what you bring to the table. Follow your dreams and your heart. Never give up on something you want! Do not be afraid to let go. Do not be afraid to stay and fight. Do not be afraid to just move on.
If one door closes, believe a greater one is about to open. If a person walks out, believe they were not meant to be present for what’s to come. If a situation does not work out, believe it was a temporary learning experience that you have mastered, now time to move on. Everything happens for a reason. Learn!
Look at just how big but small the world is, you are not an exception, LIVE your purpose!
The impossible can be possible! Give thanks for your support system, many do not have that luxury. Never forget your past for it molded you into who you are.
Do not waste energy on games, we have other things in life to promote that energy to.
Be positive! There’s absolutely no joy in negativity. Meditate daily. Clear your mind, just like a machine, we all need to reboot at times.
Begin your day giving thanks to yourself. We are our worst critics. You deserve a compliment from time to time so give it!

Have a happy Monday!!! Keep Karmalized!!

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