As you move forward today , THINK about your worth and what you deserve. God never intended for you and I to be depressed, sad or stressed. However, God allows each and every one of us to make those decisions. You are worth more than what you think. NEVER allow a person or even an idea to dilute your worth. You are not meant to be watered down whether it be your personality or your desires. BE WHO GOD intended you to be. So what if people can not handle it.., it’s ok. They aren’t meant to be included in your plan. I would rather live out loud then to keep myself bundled in silence. As long as you are staying true to yourself and the Almighty, those that are meant for you will be attracted by you. There is no need to be less than to make another person happy. Their happiness should never be your reason to live. In fact, MAN should never solely be the light to your path or the smile you put on your face. A person’s insecurity should never be YOUR problem. That is solely their battle to fight. Your position should be to support and pray. Every battle and situation does not have your name on it. Sometimes just staying TRUE to yourself is your only position. If you are in a friendship or relationship that requires you to be diluted, ask yourself … is it worth it? Is it worth it to hide who you are? Move forward and live your truth! Make it #MagicMonday !
You never know who GOD has put in your path your life to influence you.
Isaiah 45:5-7 “I am the Lord; there’s no other God. I have equipped you for battle though you don’t even know me”
I thought about this scripture a few times over the past weeks and wanted to share with you all to be open and be careful because you never know who and what has been placed in your life for your good. I believe everyone and everything has been pre-destined. We aren’t just created out of mistake or ‘just because’ … we all have a purpose whether big or small. What you seek, is all around you if you just listen. So many of us want to give advice and be judgemental and selfish to our own needs and value that we ignore what others say. We want to voice our strong opinions on things we probably know minimum to nothing about while ignoring facts and the opinions of others. Stop! Listen! Someone may be trying to tell you something that can help your growth. Don’t place how a person look, their age or status or even their past as a marker for their value to your life. If you do, you will be missing valuable gems all around. The person you try to outsmart may not be as ignorant as you think. The homeless man you ignore may be able to tell you how to not end up like him. Be open and allow your higher power to work for your good by being open to listen rather than ignoring a person based on your thought of their value.
Dear 16 year old self,
There is a whole world waiting for you … don’t be afraid to go get it! Travel the world any opportunity you get. Put your best in everything you do and smile when you’ve accomplished. Take time to breath it in!
Hard times WILL come however better times are always ahead. Don’t stress about things you can not change but focus on those you are in control of. Don’t be too hard on yourself, you are still learning and mistakes have the power to be a great teacher of life lessons. That reminds me, Life goes by so fast (believe me!) and YOUR time is something you can’t ever get back. Understand just how valuable the use of time is-Don’t waste it! Today will never be repeated, but you do have tomorrow! You won’t always be this young, embrace it! . There’s more days of being an adult then there are being young. Don’t rush it! Adulting is not forgiving!
There’s a time that will come that you will fall in love. It’s ok! Live in that moment, Love is meant to be beautiful! There will also be a time you will hurt, learn to forgive and NEVER allow your feelings to take you out of character. Every action comes with a reaction. YOU are meant to be a Queen , NEVER remove your crown!NEVER let anything stop you from your dreams. If it’s love, it will be patient. It will always support and have your best interest in mind. Never settle for less no matter how handsome the reward may look. Again, remember You are a QUEEN! Any man would be lucky just to gaze in your eyes. With that being said baby girl, every person is not meant to take your treasure. Be choicey in who you allow in and don’t be afraid to let those that don’t ADD to you OUT!! Your sex is sacred. Your body is a temple! Your love is irreplaceable.
Be good to those around you. Treat people as you would want to be treated. Don’t be the reason for a person’s hurt tears! Always aim to be good! Hold dear to your values, never waiver even in the face of adversity. Be strong. Dare to Be different. Know your value! Allow others to see your AUTHENTIC self and fall in love with who GOD made you to be, not a copy. You are the prototype!
Hold your friends close and your family closer. Never miss an opportunity to spend time with the ones you love for we never know our last breath. Don’t get so caught up in life that you forget the circle of people God gifted to you. Laugh! Laugh as much as you can. There will be days you want to cry, its ok to not be OK. But after those tears dry, LAUGH uncontrollably for it is good for the soul.
Always always listen to yourself and trust you know yourself better than anyone else. Additionally, listen to older adults at times, remember they may have been through the path already.
Most importantly, put GOD first! Don’t leave your faith behind even when things are going good. Your faith is valuable and apart of who and what you are! Make this world yours babygirl, Don’t be afraid to experience it! Be proud of yourself, you will do fine!
Your 32-year old self
I woke up the other morning with so much thanksgiving on my heart. Not sure if it was because of the peaceful sleep I woke up from the night before or the smell of lavender from my bedside diffuser. Regardless of the reason, I felt open! I felt happy to be among the living. I felt empowered to do something better than the day before. I felt blessed to be able to simply BREATHE! To see. To smell. To walk. To hear myself give Thanks to the most HIGH! I simply woke up with thanksgiving in my heart.
I got dressed, did my hair and was on my way. As I drove, I couldn’t help but verbally give Thanks during my commute ! With chills down my spine and hairs standing up, I felt so blessed to be alive and have a moment of pure clarity. No drama. No rushing. No negative thoughts. No where to be BUT to be alive! I thought of the patients I see that are on Oxygen at home but yet I’m blessed to freely breathe. The paralyzed teenager that now is bed bound however I can freely walk anywhere. The person that took their last breath and yet i still have life to live. The woman that is fighting her second round of cancer but yet Im just battling a stuffy nose. The man that is getting beat down by severe depression and yet Im gifted today to see life clearer. There’s someone out there who wish they were YOU … yes, YOU! As you take your kids for granted, someone is struggling to just get pregnant. As you take your mate for granted, there’s someone wishing they had a person by their side. A day to live although in a chaotic world, CAN be so beautiful if you take time to embrace it.
The moment of clarity I found was more than a moment, it was an experience that so many people won’t ever get to know. Why? Because sometimes the simple struggles of life can blind us to the big picture. Don’t be blinded! Happy Saturday!
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So I’m currently sitting in my car, feet up against the door, stuffing my face with a bo-berry biscuit just people watching and enjoying such a beautiful day. As the wind blows, my eyes are focused on the trees blowing and how beautiful and peaceful the scene. I’m noticing all the runners and children playing (why are they out of school? … nevermind).
Then … I see the funniest thing. A couple is walking towards a tea spot -man looks Asian and woman is short Caucasian. I’m looking (being nosey) just watching their mannerisms annnnnnnnd it’s clear the dude is NOT. . . I Repeat . . . Is NOT feeling the chick trying to hold his arm. He keeps his head up and walks faster while she tries to figure out where she could grab next. His arm? No. His shoulder? No. His waist ? No. She finally grabs his hand. I thought “ok maybe he’s a hand holder” and I smiled. That moment lasted 10 sec before he dropped her hand to “adjust his hat”. I busted out laughing at how slick he was. She still seemed so happy to be with him through all of this. This made me think …
Women? Why do we do this … in general? Persisting our love, our support on someone when it’s clear through actions it’s not wanted. Ofcourse he didn’t come right out and say “leave me the heck alone” but when the same affection that is given is not reciprocated, why not take the hint? True, I do not know them however, it doesn’t take a run down memory lane to form the idea to only accept what you deserve ! I say this as it compares to relationships. Even I have been on the opposite end of giving more than i received ( that is another blog for a later time😒) and I kept going and going hoping to find the right angle to fit! But what if there is no fit -circle to a square. What I saw , although it was funny, just made me think of us as humans. Be attentive of how a person is treating you, how that person makes you feel each day, and what exactly YOU deserve. If it doesn’t align, don’t be afraid to move forward to see what may be for you. It’s not always one size fit all and everybody is not for you and belong in your space -male or female.
Lesson of the day- Don’t be THAT chick. You never know who is watching …
keep Karmalized !
With so much going on in the world today I often wonder about the future we are all rapidly approaching. Will it get better or worse? Working as a Nurse and caring for my share of trauma patients do not help the cause nor my thoughts either! Night in and out I see how ONE bad decision can impact your whole life… How some great people can be dealt such bad cards leaving them in such a bad state and drowning in a world of questions.
Life has so many uncontrolled variables that are totally beyond our own understanding.
Monday night at work as I administered meds to a patient, I watched the verdict of the situation in Ferguson unfold. I will not get into a debate of who and what was right but I will tell you THAT is a situation that has changed lives. Whether the distrust of law and those enforcing it is your change or the hate you feel for ignorance; some how that situation made a change. It is horrible to see guns being used so freely and life being thought of as invaluable but then see a patient fighting so hard for a life they didnt have a chance to live in a hospital bed. If you think that is a 100% reference to the Ferguson case, think again!!. This goes way deeper than that. How selfish are we to place such little value on the ONE life we were all given a chance to live? Why add more chaos to an already uncontrollable state of living? My wish is that all the unnecessary violence will cease but we all know that is a long road less seem to travel. Although I wish I had presidential powers minus the presidential problems, my reality is I am a small country bred Nurse that have her own problems to battle with daily. I don’t rally up speeches and take lead in protest. I do not try to be the present day Dr. King either. I, however, applaud those who have the courage,strength no-how to do those things. My change is smaller than that… my change starts with changing the way I think of others and spreading the lost word: kindness in the atmosphere. Small starts can fuel big changes! In such a mess that we continue to observe each day, I continue to challenge each of you to do something kind to someone else. While it may not win you the Noble Peace Prize today,YOU ARE taking steps to change a person’s aspect of their day or even a hopeless decision. Think about it! Be apart of the movement! Inspire others! It is simple, inexpensive and rewarding! #dontshoot
Happy Hump day!! I can not believe it is already August, where has the time gone?!
Recently I have heard and seen ALOT of videos challenging people to do various activities. Some are positive such as the gospel singing challenge and the love challenge however there are some that are beyond negative. One in particular includes the horrid “fire challenge”. If you are not familiar with the new rave of this generation, I suggest you do some googling. Even in explaining the process I get angry so for that reason I ask that you understand and simply do some small research on the topic.
Every time I see one of these harmful challenges posted, I instantly turn away and completely shut down. As a woman in healthcare and a person that hates to see people hurt, the challenges are not funny to me and actually makes me sick to my stomach. I can not stand to watch… Literally! As a auntie, I worry and pray that my nieces and nephews never find these videos entertaining and tries to mimic any of them. Seriously, How can we as people sit back and laugh at these challenges by excusing it as simple entertainment ?! Where did humanity take a turn for the worse?? When did setting yourself on fire become cool?! Apparently I missed something and didn’t even realize it!!
With all the insanely-negative challenges that are going on, I decided to make up my own 48- hour challenge. From now until Friday at 0600, I challenge YOU that have taken the time to read my post as well as myself to post or comment affirmations you hear, see or tell yourself to a social network. It can be multiple affirmations or just one. Whether small or large, I would appreciate any support. I figure if people can get “iced down” and “burned up”, it has to be some space and energy for positive affirmations too, right?! Let’s do it!! I’m calling YOU out!
Don’t forget to tag #kindlykarmalized and #affirmationchallenge to your post!
Have a great hump day and please support!!
1 Corinthians 13:4-8New International Version (NIV)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
Good early morning! It’s 5:50am and I woke up with one of my favorite bible verses on my mind. When I forget exactly what LOVE really means, I always refer back to the good book for this verse. I just wanted to share this random thought with you! Never Forget!
Another late night – early morning post!! Good Morning to my Karmalized loves!! I felt compelled today to write this post based on numerous conversations I have had with
friends as well as my own struggle over these past couple of weeks (or more). As we grow, mature and develop into our purpose, the one thing that seems to remain constant is the desire to love or be loved. Love is an amazing thing. Love started us. Love placed us all here today. I have had the amazing privilege of finding love, falling in love and losing love; through all of my journey , I am happy to have experienced such beauty. Of course the hurt did not feel good however, I have met some that have never even felt the phenomenon. They have never been in love nor felt love. That fact alone hurts me even more! Never ? Ouch!
Regardless of your current love status, always remember no one can love you better than yourself. You can’t possibly give love if you don’t know anything about how to love YOU first. Love starts inside of YOU! Mankind makes mistakes and investing all your happiness, power and security in man can sure fail your expectations. We Are Only Human! Take it from someone who has been there and lost! Understanding and accepting your beauty and purely loving who you are is a “must” before seeking that love from others.
I encourage giving and loving so much because I truly feel unselfish limitless love is so beautiful. You don’t experience that type of gift everyday. Especially in a society where love can be so temporary, so hurtful and so misunderstood. The days of our grandparent’s love seems to be over and moving towards a new meaning. A meaning I’m still trying to figure out … How scary ?! But so true! The rare image of true and tried love is hard to find BUT not impossible!! I am a believer in prayer but also being good to yourself and others. Treat YOUrself good!!
What you put out is what you receive. Call me crazy but that’s my belief. It seemed when I use to be depressed and negative, that’s all I was surrounded with and received. Once I changed my thinking, my prospective changed.
Now…. I’m no expert in love! I am pretty sure Love has it’s own lessons he is eager to teach me. However, what I do know is my worthiness for devotion and unaltered love. Whether single or getting married, always know your worth and the worth of your partner. Treat yourself and others good! Even when it is not reciprocated, understand love can conquer! You get what you put in!! Treat others as if you would like to be treated (don’t you just love that kindergarten motto lol) !
I challenge you all to continue to be kind and spread love. Whether to your spouse, mate, friends or family, everyone deserves to see love put into action! So put IT into action!
LOVE YOURS TRULY,
Everyone has a purpose in life whether you are aware of yours or not. Everyone has a calling that either shows from day one of you entering this life or becomes evident after a period of struggle. Some live their purpose driven life with no hesitation while others continue to fight it day-to-day. My passion to impact the lives of others through kindness and love have always been a personal preference, my strength! However, the battle I have tried to fight with it ended years ago. I was once asked, in a group setting, “what I was great at”. While others replied painting, fashion, cooking, poetry, I replied “loving”. The embarrassment of my reply was evident in my red face from the awkward stares I receive afterwards. I’m pretty sure I wanted to hide under a huge rock. Since then I have tried to look deep within myself and find what moves me, what makes my heartbeat. The answer is just doing great things for people. Simple! I am a Nurse and my profession allows me to do this each day. Ofcourse not every day is a day of love, devotion and kindness however, I am beyond happy to be among people who continue to give of themselves each day with no reward in mind. I am in love with being a Nurse!
Kindly KARMAlized came about after a night of thinking on how I can impact the world. unfortunately I am not a big star or a powerful being of the world but I do have a huge heart. I wanted a way to broadcast “kind deeds” of myself and others to influence more kindness in a world filled with hatred, racism, greed, and unfairness. I feel everyone has a little kindness in them and simply putting positive vibes in the atmosphere can influence another person’s day ( Yes I am one of those people who believe in the universe lol). You NEVER know what a person is going through and how much a kind word or simple gesture can help a person’s day go better or easier. It is too many times we get caught up in our own lives that we fail to see some one else going through worst and crying out for help. Instead of ignoring them, I challenge you to take a look at your blessings and how you can help. No, I am not asking for anyone to take on the world. BUT, I am asking to do one gesture of kindness a day. If your gesture is holding a door for 5 people today, I’m sure that person will appreciate it and continue the process.
For this site, I will be posting ideas of gestures and challenge individuals to do one gesture a day. I will talk about things I am doing or have done in hopes to influence someone else. I will also put the spotlight on those in my community that have made a major impact in a life. I am so ready to get KARMAlized… Hope you are too!