March Spotlight: The Courseaults

It’s March and this month’s highlight goes to some people that are near and dear to my heart, The Courseaults!! I first met Brittany Courseault in 2004 during dance tryouts at our college and later strengthened our relationship in 2007 as we entered into the wonderful sisterhood of Alpha Kappa Alpha! Needless to say, she has been my creative and sensible, bossy yet beyond caring sister ever since! She married her high school sweetie, Jason, in the summer of 2012. Their union has been an inspiration and true testament of love, support, and strength!

Last night, I was so happy when she told me that along with her brilliant husband, they put together blessing bags to be handed out to those that were homeless in town. Such an AMAZING idea!! In the bag they included: lotion, wipes, toothpaste, shaving cream, soap, deodorant, and snacks along with a bottled water. To top it off, they hand wrote a small scripture on the front of the bag. My eyes burned with tears when I saw this and was instantly overjoyed! This couple, who are celebrating Mardi Gras presently in Louisiana took time out their schedules to make and hand out these bags to those who are less fortunate. This idea is definitely one I will be doing this month.

Thank you Courseaults for not only our MONTH challenge BUT our FIRST ever challenge!
We have about 25 days this month to complete the challenge!! Team up, make those blessing bags and let’s get Kindly Karmalized!!!

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Volunteering for your Birthday!

This year for my birthday, I wanted to do something different. I decided to volunteer as a gift to myself. After searching for days for the perfect volunteer opportunity, I was welcomed by a health screening flyer who needed Nurses. How Awesome right? I thought “this is the perfect opportunity for me” so I jumped at the idea. Last Thursday, I gave my time and skills to conducting screenings including BMI, Blood Pressures, and HBa1c to individuals attending the famous CIAA events here in Charlotte. I gave information regarding abnormal testing (Hypertension, Pre-Diabetes, Obesity, ect) and answered questions participants had. It felt great to be out in the community educating and away from my usual environment. After I left the event, I knew the start to my birthday would be a satisfying one!

If you have a birthday or celebration coming up, I challenge you to take some time to volunteer! The feeling you get after doing something great is an amazing one. I can honestly say that it was a great jump start to an amazing birthday!

Birthday love!

Friday I celebrated 28 years of living, loving, and learning the lessons of life! I enjoyed the drinks, the gifts, the food but most importantly, I was grateful for the time people gave. The older I get the more the gifts doesn’t mean as much as the time people give. Time is something so valuable that can not be given back or purchased and seems so limited. I was beyond thankful for those that came out of town just to celebrate with me and those that squeezed minutes into their schedules just to give me a hug and sing “happy birthday”. I felt so rich knowing that I had people that loved me enough to ensure I had a smile on my face for my special day. I am beyond perfect but one thing I do well is supporting my family and friends in anything they do. If I can not make it somewhere, understand there is a real reason or something have terribly gone wrong. I do this not to get it back but because I come from such a supportive family that prides themselves on “being there” for others. Of course when it is done for me, I take it a little more personal than others. My reasoning? Because time is that much valuable !! This blog is to send the message of: you never know how much you can influence a person’s day by giving of your time. A lot of people cherish your efforts more than those that give no effort at all. In society today, we move

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Snow day but warm hearts

Last week was an adventurous one to say the least but really showed me the good and bad side of humanity. Because of my profession as a Nurse, calling into work is not a big option for me. After a few scares, 10-15 mph driving and getting stuck under a overpass; I made it to work safely. On my way I was fortunate to meet two police officers that not only pushed my car up a hill but provided my fearful soul with words and followed me to work thereafter. Some may say this was their job however the way they helped was above and beyond. I wanted to get their names but they disappeared as soon as I pulled into the hospital. True men of distinction lol …

I stayed in the hospital for the remaining days since I had to work. I felt it was the safest thing to do for me and others. On Friday, in time for Valentine’s Day, I drove home. Highways were great but my neighborhood, not so much! What was I thinking to have thought my street would be paved. I ended up getting stuck yet again walking distance from my house. Wow ! As I tried to move back and forth, I noticed another car of a person that lived on my street stuck as well. I turned off my car and asked if they needed help ( Teamwork right?). As the two men pushed, I was in the driver seat pushing the gas. We went at it for about 10 minutes. After much determination, his car was out and he was on his way. No “thank you” to the man that helped him push or me. Crazily I thought he could help me as well but that idea disappeared along with the thought of getting at least a “Thank you”. I was confused at how people could lend a hand and he just acted as if it was expected. Nonetheless I moved forward and surprisingly two other men that saw my situation came to my rescue. They got my car out, drove my car home, held my hand as I walked through the ice AND shoveled my driveway ! All of this and expected NOTHING in return. I was so grateful for these two men! They not only saved my car but my broken spirit and exhausted body (Try staying at work for over 48 hours working… ).

Later that day, I learned that the two men had been helping people out since the snow fell through shoveling snow, pushing cars and pulling cars out of ditches. I was amazed… So I decided to give them a gift as a token of my appreciation. One of the men was a college student so I know exactly what he will like.

Lessons learned: my car will stay off icy roads from this point on. And muscle cars are wimps on icy roads. In addition, It’s amazing to have seen the ‘not so good’ side of man and end with two great souls lending their help. Talk about KindlyKarmalized…

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Valentine ideas for my Singles

heartValentine’s Day can be a hard day for those that may not have a date. Just as any holiday, Valentine’s Day can be over-the-top and a bit over-rated. Rule #1, it is just another day and it will pass. Rule #2, your day will come! Those are the rules to my sanity on a day where single awareness is magnified. Just as I posted things to do for my lovers, Below are ideas for my singles. Enjoy!

1. Take out one of your friends that may be going through a rough time. Movies, dinner or just a “girls/fellas night out”.

2. Have a party! Invite a couple of people over ( male and females) and have a nice fun night filled with games, appetizers, wine, beer and laughter. Believe me, there will be people willing to attend. Attack them early!

3. Make small gifts for friends and personally take each one to them. You never know, a simple visit could turn into a random night of conversation and fun.

4. Put in a favorite movie and order your favorite food as carry-out. Run a smooth bubble bath and RELAX. Take yourself out… Random fact: I just need some Pad Thai and “Coming to America” on DVD. Being kind to others first start with being kind to yourself!

5. Visit your nearest Nursing home and bring over some Valentine’s gifts for a couple lonely residents. Think about this… you are young and have time to find your love. There are some people who are older and may not have the time or opportunity to find their soul mate. This is a truth!

6. Look for events in your city. A lot of places are hosting happy hours and events in lieu of Valentine’s Day. Could be a great time to meet someone …

7. Put together a care package for someone who may be having a tougher time than you. Perhaps they just lost their partner or going through a bad break-up. Making another person’s day will leave you with a smile as well.

8. Organize a “Secret Valentine” with a group of friends. You can present in person over dinner or via mail. A surprise is always a great! There’s nothing wrong with giving to others and receiving at the same time!

9. Ask a person of the opposite sex out! Nothing major. No goal of match-making. Just a great date with platonic friend. Enjoy each other’s company!

Whatever you decide to do, do it for your happiness! Be positive! One day you will be on the opposite side so do not get caught up in the web of Valentine’s Day. DO NOT! The day after things are usually back to normal. Be happy for others and enjoy your night! Spread love regardless of what day it is…

Valentine ideas for my Lovers

heartFour more days until Valentine’s Day or as some may scream, Single Awareness Day. Regardless of who or how you plan to celebrate your day, I am here to help you make the most out the 24 hour period. This post is for my lovers… Hello Loves, this post is all for you! These tips can be for men or women. I like thinking outside the box and going against the “norm” so I hope you enjoy some of my ideas. I have a post coming for the singles as well…. stay tuned!

1. Breakfast in the morning in bed. Yes, I said this… I am not a morning person and if your loved one knows that fact about you, they will appreciate your effort of getting up before them to cook ( or go get) breakfast for them. If your love works nights, have it ready for them when they get home!

2. Warm up your lovie’s car for them while they get ready for work. Make it really special by having their mug filled with coffee and placed in the beverage holder. Morning run to Starbucks please! ( Women, you can do this for your man 🙂

3. Start a scavenger hunt. Use post-it or notecards and place them places where your love will see them. This may take a two days of planning but I promise it is a big hit! Places can include bathroom, office, cars, parking space, desk, under mats ect… End it with a dinner

4. Hire a personal chef to cook Valentine’s Dinner or maybe a great friend with great cooking skills. Make the occasion dressy, even though you are home. Escape the dull “out to eat” idea with the crowd.

5. Double date with an older couple.YES, double date! Ask them ways they made their relationship last and get them to talk about “ol love stories”. Spend a couple of hours giving but also receiving helpful tips for your relationship

6. Flowers or Edible arrangements hand delivered by you. Surprise your hardworking mate!

7. Make a basket that contains his/her favorite things. This can include: fave candy, fave team, fave perfume/cologne, fave lip gloss, fave beer/liquor, fave snack, fave store gift card, fave pictures, fave electronic, ect… You get the idea. I say include at least 4 favorite things.

8. Write a note of “appreciation” and place in an unexpected spot.

9. Turn your room into a massage parlor and give your mate a 30-45min full body massage. I rather not know the ending to that idea but hopefully its a great one!

10. Rent a fondue machine! Buy some favorite fruits and veggies and make fondue together. Romantic!

11. For the remaining of the week, send flowers or gifts to your love either at office or have at home leading up to the day. Never too late or too early to start.

12. Repair something for your love that he or she have been needing done. Remember some people love “acts of service” and not just gifts.

13. Make a bag/box filled with words that describe your love and things you love/like about them. To make it special, include future plans and ideas.

14. Make a coupon book. Notice I said “make”! Include acts such as: “10 min massage, sunday car wash, cooked dinner Wednesday, laundry day on you” and more. If you make it, definitely honor the coupons lol

15. Ready to take the next stop?? Get a house key made for your love and wrap it in a box. Avoid a ring sized box lol

16. Are you a mother or father? Offer to babysit the kid(s) and allow your mate to go out with friends or even a couple of hours of me-time (spa, nail salon, mall…)

17. Groupon is a life-saver! Check Groupon for great ideas near you. Such ideas include pottery classes, painting classes, mystery dinner, ect… I love mystery dinners!

18. If you are a talented or creative soul, use your talent especially for your love. Create a song for them, paint a picture, sing a song, write a poem…

19. Big Spender? Book a night at a fancy hotel close by and plan a night of romance. Same city but different angle! You do not have to go out-of-town to enjoy a daycation.

20. Together, you and your love can put together a vision board for each other over wine. Perfect way to plan your future together and get tipsy at the same time. Let the good times roll!

21. Cook a nice dinner or dessert together from SCRATCH. Baking cookies or cupcakes are always my favorite. Dont be afraid to get messy with each other…make it fun! Pinterest is a great place to get a variety of recipes to help you in your process.

*** 22. Out of town for the holiday? No worries, pay for a spa day (women) or two tix to a Bball game (men) for your honey and their friend. They can still enjoy a relaxing or fun filled day without your physical presence.

Gifts, flowers and candy are always great ideas however, things that touch the heart and naturally makes a person secure in their relationship and love are always better. Try something different this year and if you have suggestions, feel free to email them to me at: or tag/hashtag on twitter and/or instagram.


Thank you Mom!

For a week straight I thought heavily of my mother. I realized just how minimum I see and spend time with her despite staying in the same city. I thought of all the sacrifices she had made for my sister and I and how hard she works each day to be a strong woman in faith and in her family. Although we don’t see eye to eye each and every day, my mother has always been a big supporter of my dreams. Even when my dreams made her worry, she allowed me to make my own path, trusted in my decision, prayed for my journey and allowed me to live my life. Aside from the small worries of motherhood, she has always allowed me to “fly”. Thankfully, I have never let her down.

Last week it came to me to show her a random act of appreciation. I went to her home while she was at work, wrote a note expressing my gratitude and just how proud I am of her. My mother loves to eat out so I left her $20 so she could get lunch before work. I left it on her bed and went to work. About four hours later, I received a text stating she loved it and it made her cry. My heart jumped! Not due to fear but because I was so happy to have made her night.

It’s so essential to tell the people we love and cherish just how much they mean to us, especially our parents! Too many times we wait to sing praises at a gravesite when we had all the time to tell that person how we feel. Do not forget how lucky you are to have parents! Unfortunately there are those that can not say the same!!

I challenge you this week to express your gratitude and love to your parents. If you do not have this, express your love and gratitude to someone that you look up to! They won’t forget it and will feel so appreciated! Flowers, cards, simple notes, favorite book, simple gifts are all welcomed!

Now go get KARMAlized! Tag your idea on my twitter or Instagram by using #kindlykarmalized. Enjoy!

What am I doing?

Everyone has a purpose in life whether you are aware of yours or not. Everyone has a calling that either shows from day one of you entering this life or becomes evident after a period of struggle. Some live their purpose driven life with no hesitation while others continue to fight it day-to-day. My passion to impact the lives of others through kindness and love have always been a personal preference, my strength! However, the battle I have tried to fight with it ended years ago. I was once asked, in a group setting, “what I was great at”. While others replied painting, fashion, cooking, poetry, I replied “loving”. The embarrassment of my reply was evident in my red face from the awkward stares I receive afterwards. I’m pretty sure I wanted to hide under a huge rock. Since then I have tried to look deep within myself and find what moves me, what makes my heartbeat. The answer is just doing great things for people. Simple! I am a Nurse and my profession allows me to do this each day. Ofcourse not every day is a day of love, devotion and kindness however, I am beyond happy to be among people who continue to give of themselves each day with no reward in mind. I am in love with being a Nurse!

Kindly KARMAlized came about after a night of thinking on how I can impact the world. unfortunately I am not a big star or a powerful being of the world but I do have a huge heart. I wanted a way to broadcast “kind deeds” of myself and others to influence more kindness in a world filled with hatred, racism, greed, and unfairness. I feel everyone has a little kindness in them and simply putting positive vibes in the atmosphere can influence another person’s day ( Yes I am one of those people who believe in the universe lol). You NEVER know what a person is going through and how much a kind word or simple gesture can help a person’s day go better or easier. It is too many times we get caught up in our own lives that we fail to see some one else going through worst and crying out for help. Instead of ignoring them, I challenge you to take a look at your blessings and how you can help. No, I am not asking for anyone to take on the world. BUT, I am asking to do one gesture of kindness a day. If your gesture is holding a door for 5 people today, I’m sure that person will appreciate it and continue the process.

For this site, I will be posting ideas of gestures and challenge individuals to do one gesture a day. I will talk about things I am doing or have done in hopes to influence someone else. I will also put the spotlight on those in my community that have made a major impact in a life. I am so ready to get KARMAlized… Hope you are too!