Return of Kindly Karmalized

THREE years and FOUR months… 3 years and 4 months… over three looong years…that is how long it has been since I wrote my last post. That was the last time I breathed life into my first baby- KINDLY KARMALIZED. That was the last time I allowed myself to freely write, to freely share my thoughts, to freely be inspired by the world !

I can remember the birth of this blog and how happy I was to finally have something I could publish and pour out my thoughts and visions. I finally had a legit platform to empty what was in my heart and heavy on my mind. I remember being so afraid of publicly publishing my first blog that I read over it three or four times just to make sure I was ready. I probably hit the refresh button every minute just to see if ONE person would care to read my words once I hit “publish”. I had no idea the influence I would have or even if I would make a difference.  I was ready to give this site, this vision, all I had. I had visions of helping the homeless, empowering women in shelters, raising money for those less fortunate, brightening up the day of a random person and just sprinkling kindness every where I walked…. and then I remember little by little, losing myself in a situation that unconsciously  started to take my inspiration, my desire, my joy,  my inner peace. Slowly my thoughts did not flow naturally. My words did not make sense to me. I stared at my computer screen feeling so uninspired. I did not want to write. I did not want to do anything remotely close to expressing how I felt. Maybe because I felt my kindness-happy blog would turn into a place of remorse and resentment. I did not want my place of peace to turn into a place of pain.  I just was not feeling “IT”. It is crazy how your attitude can change once you lose your ground and give attention to things that do not deserve it. We slowly forget things that are more important to us by replacing it with things that are irrelevant to our being.  I never thought that it would be over three years before I felt that fire in my heart to light again.

Fast forward to the present, the universe- my GOD- have allowed my opportunity to come full circle. My excitement about the new direction I am mentally taking in my life as well as the bigger vision I have for Kindly Karmalized gives me joy. I literally smile when I think of the small box I plan to step out of and the influence I want this movement to have. I am older, wiser and much more motivated to do good and to concentrate more on positive vibes and nurturing mind, body and soul. I am more confident in what I am trying to do and the journey I am taking. I want to hold my baby tight and give it more life than before. I want to grow it to its full potential and in return enjoy the journey. Maybe my trip through heartbreaks, distrust, learning to love myself again, and personal growth had to happen to bring me back to this point. I am not sure but I do know there’s something in me that is burning to lead me to my purpose. My mission is bigger than just being basic.  I pray to GOD that I am able to consistently and confidently go forth to bring my thoughts and acts forward. I pray he leads me down a positive path and allows me freedom to discover things others may not understand or do not have the capacity to tap into. I speak life into my dreams and my purpose.

This is Kindly Karmalized – revamped!

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Good company I keep … Let’s Flock!

“Birds of a feather, flocks together”… Who made this up?! I have no idea however I agree with this statement fully! Recently I’ve had conversations about the successes of my circle of friends from careers to marriages. I boasted about how proud I am of each and every one of them. As they continue growing in their careers and goals, I find myself doing the same. We all feed off each other so much that when one gets a promotion, it’s only a matter of time until I hear more good news from others. We push each other, we celebrate each other and we feed off each other. I can honestly say that although we may have disagreements (We aren’t perfect), God has surrounded me with a group of friends that do not accept mediocre as normal. We rather strive on than fail. We are independent, we are career oriented, we are all about happiness, we want strong families and we all want the best for each other. That is uncommon when it comes to a bunch of females (so I have heard…) however, this is the circle I have been fortunate to have. This is the company I decide to keep! We pray together and band together to help each other get to the next step. We don’t believe in the concept of “crabs in a barrel” We all much rather just flock” together! I am so blessed to have these individuals!

My advice to anyone is to surround yourself with positive-like minded people that want the same things you want. Whether it be a good marriage, a great career or positive lifestyle changes, you are the company you decide to keep! Think about the closest “5” people to you and their goals in life. Now think about your goals ?! Do you encourage each other? Are your goals the same? What benefit are you to the people in your life? When looking at your future, think of these questions and ask yourself. You want to be surrounded with positive vibes…remember misery loves company. Just because one person decides to stop, does not mean you have to remain complacent. Go for it!! What type of company do you keep??

Happy Monday!!

Affirmation Challenge

Happy Hump day!! I can not believe it is already August, where has the time gone?!

Recently I have heard and seen ALOT of videos challenging people to do various activities. Some are positive such as the gospel singing challenge and the love challenge however there are some that are beyond negative. One in particular includes the horrid “fire challenge”. If you are not familiar with the new rave of this generation, I suggest you do some googling. Even in explaining the process I get angry so for that reason I ask that you understand and simply do some small research on the topic.

Every time I see one of these harmful challenges posted, I instantly turn away and completely shut down. As a woman in healthcare and a person that hates to see people hurt, the challenges are not funny to me and actually makes me sick to my stomach. I can not stand to watch… Literally! As a auntie, I worry and pray that my nieces and nephews never find these videos entertaining and tries to mimic any of them. Seriously, How can we as people sit back and laugh at these challenges by excusing it as simple entertainment ?! Where did humanity take a turn for the worse?? When did setting yourself on fire become cool?! Apparently I missed something and didn’t even realize it!!

With all the insanely-negative challenges that are going on, I decided to make up my own 48- hour challenge. From now until Friday at 0600, I challenge YOU that have taken the time to read my post as well as myself to post or comment affirmations you hear, see or tell yourself to a social network. It can be multiple affirmations or just one. Whether small or large, I would appreciate any support. I figure if people can get “iced down” and “burned up”, it has to be some space and energy for positive affirmations too, right?! Let’s do it!! I’m calling YOU out!

Don’t forget to tag #kindlykarmalized and #affirmationchallenge to your post!

Have a great hump day and please support!!

INSTAGRAM: kindlykarmalized

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Love is…

1 Corinthians 13:4-8New International Version (NIV)


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

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Good early morning! It’s 5:50am and I woke up with one of my favorite bible verses on my mind. When I forget exactly what LOVE really means, I always refer back to the good book for this verse. I just wanted to share this random thought with you! Never Forget!

You never know who is WATCHing …

After a busy and long couple of weeks of working, traveling and trying to get my life in some order, I have ample time to reach out to my followers! Well Hello World!! Oh how I have missed taking time to post and blog!

Recently I was given a compliment without even noticing anyone was watching. I usually get to work about 10-15 min early to ensure I have time to take the stairs down to the ground floor from the parking deck, walk through the main emergency room and catch the slow elevators up to my floor to clock in at 640pm. Before I take the stairs in the parking deck, I push the elevator button down for those that opt out of using the stairs as I do. The elevators from the parking deck are probably the slowest I have ever seen so I figure by pushing the button for others, I am essentially saving them time and energy. Time from waiting and energy used to run down the narrow stairwell. I have done this every single time I work especially if I see another person trailing far behind me.

Well- this week as I was dragging into work, tired as ever, a woman briefly stopped me and thanked me for always pushing the button before I run down the four flights of stairs. I was shocked and pleasantly surprised that anyone even noticed! Apparently, we both get to work around the same time and she noticed I pushed the button for the elevator a couple times. Seeing that almost every time she observes me ahead of her and having the elevators open right when she gets to them, she wanted to say “Thank you” for making her commute a little easier. She quickly explained how she is recovering from a minor ankle problem and unable to take the stairs each time she works. I could tell by her limp that taking the elevators were probably a better option for her and how I actually helped a person without even really trying! It was a simple thank you that put a smile on my face that evening!

This really goes to show that there is someone always looking/observing whether you notice it or not. By simply holding a door for a person or in my case, pushing a elevator button, you are giving another person a simple victory. Of course I have my days where I think to myself if anyone even cares for the small things I do however, this is a great reminder that although so minor, YOU can make a difference in a person’s day! Always TRY to be your best and put out positive actions/energy because you never know when you are silently being “Thanked”…

Enjoy the rest of your week loves!

Instagram: @Kindlykarmalized

Care Package for my sick

Life. One thing we have absolutely no control over but have the ability to control what we do in it. Life is the journey into the unknown. Where one minute you have things figured out. You have plans, you are content and you are settled into a routine. With a blink of an eye, all of what was yesterday can change today. How crazy is that truth?

Well… recently a family member of mine have been going through a lot health-wise. From heart issues to stomach problems and now the threat of cancer. It has been an up-down ride on life’s roller coaster for this person and family. Every day I pray for the people in my life as well as myself. I pray for happiness, love, protection and now healing. I am believer of holistic care. Taking care of the mind and spirit can in return play apart on your health. Just as stress can have you physically feeling bad, your mind and spirit can do the same. I never want anyone especially those close to me to “give up” on life or become negative through their health circumstance. Although my family member has such a positive outlook and strong faith, I wanted to make sure I kept that momentum going. So I decided to put together something that would pick their spirits up and show them they are in my thoughts, heart and incredibly loved.

To act on this idea, I decided to put together a care package for them! Although I can not be there 24/7 due to distance, I wanted to show my love and support another way.
In my care package, I put together things they would like as well as things I thought would make them happy and comfortable.

This included: a comfy neck pillow, eye shade mask, Werther’s Original candy, peppermint gum, 2 lightly scented candles, faith plaque, Kleenex, a man kit (deodorant, shaver, shaving cream, body wash, toothpaste, toothbrush), a tote bag and a card. In the card I made sure to express my feelings of how much they meant to me and how I am there for whatever is needed. As I put this package together, I could not help but get emotional. Not because I was sad but happy that I am in a place to bring happiness to someone that have always been there for me and showed me nothing but support and love. This package may have been small but it came with all my thoughts, prayers, support and love. I was so content in knowing they would be so surprised to receive a big brown box at their doorstep in less than 2 day. WIN!!

I would definitely love to put together more boxes like this but also challenge each of you to do the same if someone close to you is going through a health breakdown. Feel free to contact me for more ideas of items to include or if you would like for me to send something to someone. Email me: kindlykarmalized@gmail.com or just reply to this blog! Don’t forget to follow my Instagram @kindlykarmalized

Yours Truly!

Are you nice to yourself?

Happy Friday everyone!! I have to admit that I have been beyond busy the last two weeks. In transitioning to not only a new hospital but a new role in Nursing ( med/surg to critical care…YAYYY!! ), my schedule has been a little challenging. Nevertheless, I am so happy, eager and ready to learn all I need to know in order to be a great Nurse to my critical patients.

Ironically for the last 2.5 weeks, I have been pounded with the message of not being “too hard on yourself and loving yourself”. I am known for being too hard on myself in situations, not because I think less than highly of myself but because I strive for the best and always want to be #1. I am the first to admit, I can be competitive at times! When I don’t reach a certain goal or obtain a certain reward, I think of things I could have done better and beat myself up. The older I get, the more I see this as a flaw in myself.
So, in orientation 2 weeks ago, I had the pleasure of meeting the director of pastoral services at my new hospital that gave a great speech about being good to others as well as ourselves. He talked about how we have millions of thoughts daily and majority of them are negative thoughts against ourselves. He gave examples of how when we first wake up and look in the mirror we say to ourselves “Boy,do you look a mess”. Then it continues to “I look fat in this outfit” and “I’m running late, how could I have been so dumb to oversleep”. When you really think about all the things we say to ourselves, we can be unkind at times. Not intentionally but we are our worse critics. If someone states they have Never done any of this, I would probably be concerned.

He gave us an exercise to do where he held one participant’s arm out and started pushing down on his arm. Of course the person was strong and able to push back with ease. Then he told the person to repeat “I am weak,I am weak” 30 times in which the person did. After the negative repetition, he tried again to push his arm and crazy enough, he was unable to push back as strong as before. Such a simple exercise showed just how thoughtful I can be to others but how mean we can be to ourselves. Of course, we all have times where we praise ourselves internally and externally but for the most part on a daily basis we can constantly find things wrong with ourselves without even realizing it. YES, I am guilty of this! If perfect was possible, I would be in the running for it! He then talked about just doing simple things to others by saying “hello” when you pass a person or giving a smile to a person walking towards you. How many times have we avoided a look from a person by looking down on our cellphones in order to not speak. Lets all admit our guilt! You never know how a person could yearn for just a smile!
I internally thanked the presenter for sharing such great words and exercise and wanted to personally thank him however just as fast as he came in, he left before I could break out. I plan to look up his name in our company directory and send a anonymous “thank you” card soon!

With all that you have read, I have decided to do two things. One of these things is something I usually do but have not had the chance. I usually post positive messages in my bathroom for myself and place them on my mirror. Unfortunately, since I have moved into my place a couple months ago, I have failed to post anything. I will definitely do this, this weekend.
My FIRST challenge to you is …. POST something good and positive about yourself as we reminder. Whether on a refrigerator, in a closet, in your bathroom mirror, or somewhere secure like in a book or work bag. It could be anything from ” I am beautiful and loved by many” or “I am Awesome and beyond blessed!”. Whatever works for you, make it work!!

Second challenge , do something for yourself! Whether it is buying a new outfit, getting a manicure/pedicure combo ( my favorite), taking yourself out to dinner or something inexpensive like making a bubble bath and relaxing. As long as you schedule out a moment and do something for yourself in the next couple of days. No one can love you better than YOU!

Enjoy the challenge and I will post my own a long with another challenge I have coming soon. Remember to follow my Instagram for updates!
Instagram: @kindlykarmalized with hashtag #ItsALLaboutME

Peace!

Half way there… 10 Days Of Happiness!

Good early morning!! We are halfway finish with the ” 10 Days of Happiness” challenge. I can honestly say that pointing out things that makes me happy have given me a moment to take in a smile or two and a appreciation of all I have. It’s such a breath of fresh sir!! I’m thankful I decided to do this!!! I have a couple people just jumping on to the challenge. With that said, I will be going as long as it takes for everyone to finish. I have also been thinking about extending it to “30 days of happiness”. I truly needed this … I feel all of us need it! Every day will not be the greatest but we can always appreciate a moment of happiness!
Simplicity to say the least …

I hope everyone continues to take it in and help with this challenge. Some of my closest friends and sorority sisters have started and EACH time I see a post, I smile!! Thanks for the support and love people!! Let’s finish the challenge out strong!!

#keepkarmalized 🙂

10 Days of happiness… Can you be happy for 10 days??

By now you all should know I do some of my best thinking late night/early mornings. So at approximately 4:49a, I’m wide eyed, thoughts flowing and ready to bring it!

I recently heard about a project going on called “100 days of happiness”. A couple people I know on Instagram decided to participate and have been doing a great job at posting things that makes them happy. Not exactly sure when it started but I did see that a day in March was allocated as “Happiness Day”. How nice!! … So looking through pictures and reading, I thought how cool it would be to do my own thing. My own “happiness project”

With the past couple weeks being challenging, I’m always up for a great challenge!! Im ALWAYS down for anything to relieve stress, smile more, laugh loudly and make you forget life’s little hiccups. Sooooo I decided to challenge myself to “10 days of happiness” !!! We all can forget how simple it can be to have happiness in a chaotic world. Not only do we forget to be kind (as I preach) but we can also forget how great it feels to genuinely be happy. We forget how a funny joke or convo can turn a frown to a smile or just how something as simple as an “Oreo milkshake with extra extra Oreos” can make our night that much better (Yes that was very specific but at least you know one thing that makes me happy lol).

With that being said, I will be doing my own “10 days of happiness”. I urge whoever reading to take a moment each day for 10 days and do something that makes you happy regardless how small. Post them to your IG and @me at @kindlykarmalized so I can see. I may feature your post 🙂 … I know we are ALL busy but let’s do something as simple as this … I will definitely be posting my “simple things” to my IG account so please follow and support!!

Thank you all in advance. Let’s post “10 days of happiness”. Start date: Today, May 5, 2014 aka Cinco De Mayo, how convenient!! Let’s goo!!

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#keepkarmalized #10DaysOfHappiness

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